Glossary and Orientation Guide
Core Principles
Authorship Over Identity
Choosing from present regulation rather than defending a fixed self-concept.
Regulation
The ability to move flexibly between activation and rest while maintaining agency and connection. Regulation is not calmness, it is adaptability.
Capacity
Your current ability to tolerate stimulation, emotion, intensity, connection, stress, or uncertainty without losing agency. Capacity fluctuates daily.
Load
The total physiological and psychological demand currently placed on your system. Sleep debt, conflict, secrecy, shame, travel, pressure, illness — these all increase load. Capacity minus load determines what you can metabolize.
States & Zones
Green Zone
Regulated. Open. Flexible. Voluntary engagement.
Yellow Zone
Rising activation. Vigilance increasing. Narrative forming. Control impulses appearing.
Red Zone
Overwhelm, shutdown, impulsivity, or threat-dominant behaviour.
Regulation Types
Non-Activating Regulators
Lower arousal and increase safety.
Examples:
• Warmth
• Slow touch
• Quiet walking
• Sunlight
• Gentle breath
• Safe conversation
Best when safety-seeking or overloaded.
Activating Regulators
Increase arousal in a structured, contained way.
Examples:
• Intense exercise
• Sexual expression
• Creative performance
• Debate
• Surfing
• Cold exposure
Healthy when capacity is high.
Disregulating when load is high.
Regulator Matching
Selecting activating or non-activating inputs based on current state. Regulation is not about calming down, it is about matching stimulation to capacity.
Desire & Activation
Clean Desire
Present-moment wanting that does not require control, fantasy, outcome, or reassurance to survive. It is stable and it does not spike or collapse dramatically.
Anticipatory Charge
Future-oriented activation fuelled by projection and imagined possibility, often mistaken for desire. It feels intense and it collapses when obligation appears.
Interaction Uncertainty
The psychological and nervous-system load that arises when interacting with unfamiliar people. The nervous system enters a mild state of vigilance, increasing cognitive load and emotional activation.
Obligation-Triggered Desire Collapse (OTDC)
A pattern in which desire diminishes once expectation, exclusivity pressure, or demand enters the system. The nervous system shifts from voluntary engagement to compliance threat.
Future Policing
Prematurely judging present behaviour through imagined future criticism or identity preservation. It is a regulatory strategy disguised as morality.
Relational Dynamics
Containment
The ability to hold activation without impulsively escalating, suppressing, or collapsing. It is metabolized intensity.
Co-Regulation
Stabilization through safe relational contact.
Exit Agency
The felt sense that you can leave, pause, or stop without coercion. It increases safety and preserves desire.
Parallel Possibility Holding
The ability to explore multiple relational trajectories without premature exclusivity or guilt.
Relational Gravity
Mutual pull toward connection that does not require force.
Relational Density
The frequency and availability of meaningful social interactions within a given environment. The likelihood that weak social ties will form and gradually deepen into friendships or relationships.
Meaning & Narrative
Meaning-Making Spiral
When neutral sensations or simple desire are rapidly layered with identity-based narrative. Clean desire suffocates under excessive meaning.
Image Management
Behaviour driven by perception control rather than authentic desire.
Secrecy Load
The regulatory cost of holding information that cannot be integrated safely.
Lifestyle Architecture
Minimal Viable Life (MVL)
A structured model with three tiers:
Baseline Regulation
Sleep, nutrition, hydration, movement, sunlight.Expansion
Strategic capacity-building activities added gradually.Fulfillment
Present-moment joy not tied to productivity.
The MVL protects against chronic yellow-zone living.