Modern dating asks people to do something that humans historically almost never had to do: repeatedly meet complete strangers and try to manufacture intimacy on demand.

Life coaching has grown quickly as a field, but with that growth comes confusion. Many people do not know where coaching ends and therapy begins. Some coaches wander into territory that should belong to clinicians. Others become so cautious that they stop doing the work coaching was meant to do in the first place.

None of this exists in isolation. Anything I say about the nervous system, regulation, attachment, or relational behaviour stands firmly on the work of researchers and clinicians who came long before me…